Gray Divorce After 50: Alimony, Assets, and Rebuilding Your Life

In this episode of The D Shift: Redefining Divorce and Beyond, host Mardi Winder-Adams welcomes back Lisa Zeiderman, managing partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP and a seasoned divorce attorney and financial analyst. They delve into the complexities of gray divorce, focusing on the unique challenges faced by women over 50.

Lisa shares her expertise on critical topics such as:

• The financial impact of divorcing after a long-term marriage

• The realities of alimony and why permanent support is increasingly rare

• Strategies for rebuilding financial independence post-divorce

• The importance of understanding and dividing retirement assets

• How to approach the division of the marital home and other significant assets

They also discuss the emotional aspects of starting over later in life and the importance of seeking professional guidance. Lisa highlights resources like Savvy Ladies, offering free financial counseling to women navigating these transitions.

The conversation also addresses the need for careful financial planning and working with trusted advisors who can help clarify budgets, retirement funds, and sustainable lifestyle choices. Lisa and Mardi examine the impact of adult children’s involvement in divorce negotiations, encouraging parents to put their own well-being first. Additionally, they discuss decisions around the marital home and vacation properties, highlighting tax considerations and the importance of prioritizing personal needs. Throughout the conversation, Lisa’s advice always circles back to the need for clear understanding and realistic planning to secure a stable future after divorce.

Whether you're facing a gray divorce, supporting someone who is, or simply want to be informed, this episode provides valuable insights to help you move forward with confidence.

About the Guest:

Lisa Zeiderman is Managing Partner at Miller Zeiderman LLP, based in New York. A matrimonial attorney, CFL and Certified Divorce Financial Analyst, she regularly handles complex financial and custody divorce matters, as well as pre- and post-nuptial agreements for high-net-worth individuals. Named to the Crain’s New York list of Notable Leaders in Accounting, Consulting and Law for 2024, Notable Woman Attorneys for 2021 and 2022, as well as a Crain’s New York Notable Diverse Lawyer for 2022, a Hudson Valley Best Lawyer in 2022, 2023 and 2024, and a Super Lawyer, Lisa has received a host of awards recognizing outstanding client service and others that reflect peer review.

Lisa is a founding member of the American Academy of Certified Financial Litigators and a member of the panel for Attorneys for Children. In addition to authoring a well-read blog on Psychology Today, “Legal Matters: Understanding Mental Health Issues as They Apply to Divorce and Child Custody,” and co-hosting the Savvy Ladies podcast “The Power of the Ask”, Ms. Zeiderman is regularly published in Financial Advisor Magazine, The New York Law Journal, and by the Forbes Business Council. She is also interviewed on issues ranging from financial empowerment to tax issues to child custody in a host of media and podcasts and speaks to groups on these topics as well.

Ms. Zeiderman, a Fordham University of Law graduate, serves as Board Chair of Savvy Ladies, Inc., and serves on the board of Family Legal Care (formerly known as LIFT, Legal Information for Families Today). Lisa is also a member of the Forbes Business Council and Chief.

To connect with Lisa:

Website: www.lisazeiderman.com

Social Media: @LisaZeiderman on LinkedIn, FB, Insta, X

About the Host:

Mardi Winder-Adams is an ICF and BCC Executive and Leadership Coach, Certified Divorce Transition Coach, Certified Divorce Specialist (CDS®) and a Credentialed Distinguished Mediator in Texas. She has worked with women in executive, entrepreneur, and leadership roles, navigating personal, life, and professional transitions. She is the founder of Positive Communication Systems, LLC, and host of Real Divorce Talks, a quarterly series designed to provide education and inspiration to women at all stages of divorce.

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